2013 Resolutions…

Psst- Thanks SO MUCH for the love with our little announcement this morning guys. You rock our socks. For reals.

Well, we aren’t going to make 2,013 resolutions, but here are five of them. You guys know that every year we like to broadcast them to the world to light a fire under our arse in the hopes of accomplishing them (you can check out last year’s here, 2011’s here, and 2010’s here). So let’s get cracking…

#1. Hold On. Let’s just say that for anyone who worries we’ll run out of things to do or rooms to makeover or projects to tackle… this is going to be our busiest year yet. Chock fulla new DIY undertakings. We can’t reveal everything yet (there are some pretty big cats in some pretty big bags) but we can’t wait to free the kitties! So beyond having a ton of untouched spaces to tend to here (like Clara’s big girl room, the front porch, the carport, the guest bathroom, etc) let’s just say we’re not going to stop there. We have some other MAJOR things, and we can’t wait to over-share every detail with you guys. And no Mom, I’m not pregnant.

#2. Chat Things Up. Without a doubt, you guys put the “you” in Young House Love, and we’ve mentioned that we’d like to work more of “you” into our little DIY diary. We’ve actually heard from a lot of you who’d love to see forums over here as a friendly and helpful way to share photos, advice, ideas, inspiration, and all that good stuff. So we’ve been researching how to get those going without crashing our site or spending hours each day maintaining them. We’d really love to give it a try, so our goal is to focus even more on making that happen in the spring (after we’re done with book tour craziness). Cross your fingers and whisper “no crashies, no crashies, no crashies” (that’s our equivalent to “no whammies”).

#3. Be Realistic. As much as we like to avoid blog stage fright by pretending that we’re just talking to 10 readers, the truth is that there are a lot more people dropping in. And most sites with over 5 million hits a month tend to be coded, written, and run by a team of people. Meanwhile, we’re just a guy and a gal with a toddler running around who are juggling DIY projects, post writing, an in-progress book tour, site coding, and a bunch of secret-project balls (wait, that sounds wrong). So this resolution is just about reminding ourselves that we’re only two people. Two highly dedicated folks who love what we do, but two people who can’t do the work of ten people, no matter how hard we try. And this year we’re gonna stop beating ourselves up about it.

Since we like our grass roots approach (we have no desire to hire people to answer comments, write posts, or program the site) that means that we need to be as efficient and realistic as possible and stop pressuring ourselves. We’re not HGTV or BHG, we’re John and Sherry from the block blog. And amazingly, you guys tell us that’s a big reason that you like YHL, so it’s about time we embraced it.

#4. Reclaim Our Lives. This sort of connects to resolution #3, but we’ve publicly struggled with finding balance for a few years now (here, here, here, and here) and answered “how do you do it all?” questions with “we just don’t sleep – maybe we’ll sleep next year.” Well, it’s officially next year, so it would be nice not to be up until 1am finishing projects and writing posts and juggling book stuff along with keeping up with normal things like laundry and cleaning and grocery shopping. We never aspired to be people who work on nights, weekends, and even on vacation (in fact we moved from NYC to Virginia back in 2005 to escape that lifestyle) so the irony isn’t lost on us.

But although many of you chimed in during our blogiversary to say that you’d be happy with one post a day, we aren’t quite ready to scale things back that much, so we’ve decided to go from 8 posts a week down to 7 posts a week (along with 2 more over on Young House Life as usual of course). At the end of the month whenever we glance back at our monthly roundups we’re always surprised at how much we’ve done, and this change shouldn’t affect that very much at all. It mostly means we’ll space out posts like Window Shoppings, House Crashings, Budget Blooms, or Reader Redesigns a bit more so there’s one less of those posts to write, photograph, edit, proofread, and answer questions about each week.

Hopefully you won’t notice the shift very much (we think we’ll post twice on Monday, once on Tuesday, twice on Wednesday, once on Thursday, and once on Friday along with two more posts each week over on Young House Life). And that pace will allow us to spend more time brainstorming ideas, actually doing projects, and recharging with the family – three things that add up to happier bloggers, which will hopefully lead to even more thought-out projects and creative ideas. It also means we’re less likely to throw in the blogging towel. We definitely want to play the long game and not burn out since we truly love this strange little career we’ve built, especially when we’re balanced and smart about how we run this little two person ship of ours.

#5. Be Free. You guys never fail to surprise us by responding to the most random of posts (like this one I wrote about breast feeding and this one John wrote about running). They both got hundreds of comments more than any other DIY related post around it, and they remind us that sharing more than just painting and sawing and gluing and sanding is as fun for you guys as it is for us. Heck, even a random Friday post like this one about five weird things about me elicited over 1,000 comments – and they’re without a doubt the funniest comments on our entire site. Seriously, take ten minutes to scroll through a page or two and I guarantee you’ll be giggling. This blog is our happy place and these spontaneous posts keep it light and fun. And we think blogs that are more stream-of-consciousness than polished-and-perfect are the most fun to read anyway.

So those are our five putting-them-out-there resolutions for the coming year. What are you guys resolving? Any personal ones? Personally I’m resolving to simplify things like crazy (something I’ve said before, but I’m feeling even more determined to master it this year). I have too many gadgets and decorative objects and pillows and gift bags and pens and about a million other things that add up to a whole lotta clutter, so I can’t wait to pare down and attempt to live as simply as John and I did back in NYC when we each had tiny studios without attics and basements to hoard clutter. Less really is more, in so many ways.


  1. says

    Yes! Less is so much more! I almost feel guilty moving into a 2500 square foot house because I know that it’s more than we NEED. Living in a two bedroom condo for two years will really reset your priorities ;)

    My one resolution this year is to spend more quality time with Isla June. You know, REALLY enjoy her. Which means less blogging and less trying to start my own business. But, it means more time with someone who means the world to me and who is eventually going to grow up and not want so many snuggles. I think it’s going to be the best year ever :)

    Can’t wait to see what y’all have in store!
    And good luck with the balance thing, it’s well worth the effort!

  2. says

    Fort this first time in a long time I actually sat down this year and made like ten pages of resolutions for this year. Some serious (I’d love to get pregnant) and some ridiculous (detailed here: http://www.filing-jointly.com/2013/01/ryan-is-always-taking-pins-to-my.html – really very dumb though, don’t feel like you need to read them.)

    This year just feels like a big one for me, probably because it is my last year in my 20s as well (My 29th is Monday).

    I love your Be Free resolution by the way. I think I’m going to try to fit that in on my own blog, where I feel like I ALWAYS have to be funny. Maybe a serious post or two wouldn’t hurt.

  3. says

    I really like your resolutions! Especially number 4 and 5. As much as you might love your job, it’s SO important to keep the balance and I ABSOLUTELY love your stream of consciousness-y posts.

    My resolutions are similar to yours:
    _relax more (I’m working 9 to 5 and we have one concert every month, I have to try and not let the stress get at me, I’ve been sick so much last year)
    _start running and then run 1 mile every evening for 30 days in a row
    _be excited (I used to be such an enthusiastic person but lost all of that)
    _travel more (I’m reasonably well paid so this year I’m going to go on holidays. Once to London, to Prague and to another city I haven’t been to yet, maybe Stockholm or Tallinn)
    _appreciate what I have (just because things look better doesn’t mean they are)
    Oh, and I have to get a rug for our living room ;)

    Happy (belated) New Year from Germany

  4. Bridgit says

    I am going to go out on a limb and guess that you bought a beach house and are going to have a whole new slew of projects! We want to do that in a couple of years and I hope you guys can lead the way.

  5. Sarah Bucior says

    I think you guys do really well, and yes we love the ‘about you’ stuff too.

    My resolution this year is to THIN OUT our stuff. I want to freecycle, donate, sell, throw away, gift 365 things by the end of this year. Better get started. :)

    You guys rock!!

    • Monika says

      I LOVE the idea of gifting 365 things by the end of the year! I think I’ll be adopting that plan :o)

  6. says

    Love it! You guys do a fantastic job — no doubt my favorite website — and it’s crazy to think it’s just two people doing all that you do. I remember thinking how fun it would be to do what you do … and then I read your day-in-the-life post. While I’m still a touch envious, I was blown away at what it truly takes. Keep up the good work, but also keep up with the time away. You totally deserve some kick back time. :)

  7. Jenny says

    You have too many pillows?!?!

    Seriously though, full support. Without farming out stuff you guys already do to helpers, could an intern take a lead on new stuff like forums, that are set up to be less Petersik-intensive anyway?

  8. CohoesMom5 says

    I love your resolutions, especially Be Realistic. I think I might adopt that one for me. I really want “A New Me in 1-3” but I have to be realistic and remember that losing 75 pounds and decluttering my entire house and decorating the house may not be realistic for 2013, especially when you add in 5 kids and a full time job.

  9. says

    Your blog is the only blog I always read, never missing a day. It is totally because of stuff like this. My husband bought me your book for christmas and I was trying to explain why I wanted the book so badly and read so consistently. He finally got it and said, “you just are really happy when good things happen to great people.”. That’s totally it! You guys are great people and you know, you deserve great things!! And to take a day off now and then!

  10. says

    Thank goodness you are slowing down a little. I have been worried about that since I first read those “day-in-the-life” posts from last year. Just redoing our house and working full time without a toddler can feel exhausting. I can’t imagine the kind of tired y’all must be! Looking forward to your tour stop here in SoFlo next week.

  11. Diana says

    I really admire how you guys keep everything running “in house”, and even in the family! It is rare and so appreciated! I am glad to see you guys making small plans to scale back- you deserve some “me” time (if you can even have that with a toddler ;-)).

    As for resolutions, my broad resolution is to be more present with the individual tasks I have through the day. If I am playing with my children, I am not thinking about 62 other things I need to do. If I am working on my online class, I am not editing photos. If I am cleaning my house, I am not checking Facebook every 5 minutes. I want to be a better steward of my time and not feel so guilty about how hard it is to be focused.

    My “fun” goal for myself is to show my house some love in the form of a single project per month, whether it takes 5 minutes and costs nothing, or takes a whole month and is more of an investment. I got a certain book for Christmas that greatly inspired me…. ;-)

  12. says

    I think you’re awesome (all 4 of you – yes Burger is included). Your blog is so inspiring and I couldn’t be happier for all the success you’ve had and continue to have… I feel like I know you, in a way… and because of that, I want you both to put the lap tops aside and do a little dance with the music on blast (unless the little one is napping, in which case just take a nap yourselves). Please? Thanks.

  13. Ekaterina says

    Did you guys buy a vacation house finally?! :) Loving your resolutions. 2012 seemed so busy and fruitful for you – the best of luck in 2013!

  14. says

    The graphics in this post are fabulous.

    My husband and I have resolved to stop procrastinating. We’re both procrastinating perfectionists, which is a terribly stressful combination.